Two Young (-ish, at the Time) Punks Attempt to Re-Write Schulberg

via Ben Stiller and Jerry Stahl: Two Young (-ish, at the Time) Punks Attempt to Re-Write Schulberg.

Who, dear reader, do you think you are? Do you think your mind is capable of independent judgment and largely directs the course of your life? Do you think that most of your decisions in life have been the product of your rational, conscious self? Do you believe you are in control of your life? Do you cherish ideas such as self-expression, a sense of autonomy and a distinct, self-authored identity? The chances are that, albeit with a few qualifications, most of your answers are yes. Indeed, given a pervasive culture which reinforces all these ideas, it would be a bit odd if you didn’t.

But the point about this new explosion of interest in research into our brains is that it exposes as illusions much of these guiding principles of what it is to be a mature adult. They are a profound misunderstanding of how we think, and how our brains work. They are fairytales, about as fanciful and as implausible as goblins.

via In control? Think again. Our ideas of brain and human nature are myths | Madeleine Bunting | Comment is free | The Guardian.

Yes, the capacity of the brain to change as a function of experience. And as a geneticist, I’m really interested in epigenetic phenomenon, that is, the capacity of our genes to change in their expression as a function of experience. Meditation seems to do that as well! There is one really great study where a set of about 15 genes were shown to differ in expression as function of a type of meditation. Those genes are ones involved in the stress response. And I’m sure there will be more studies like that.

via Dr. Patricia Fitzgerald: Can Meditation Change Your Brain And Affect Your Genes?.

“Last Day Dream” (2009) by Chris Milk | Design You Trust. World’s Most Provocative Social Inspiration..

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Visual artist reality series open casting calls July 11-19

Just received this email from the production company that did Project Runway and Top Chef. They are casting a new show that will showcase emerging visual artists creating and competing on Bravo.

Full info on how to apply is available at www.BravoTV.com/casting.

Love or hate reality TV, this ought to be interesting. And don’t you think it’s high time that artists are given their due alongside dancers, musicians, chefs, worm-eaters, and show-all celebrities?

via Art Biz Blog.

YouTube – NAKED BAR REFAELI.

via Ed and Deb Shapiro: Dinner With Monica Lewinsky — 6 Reasons To Forgive Yourself.

Holding on to past guilt or shame hurts us, not anyone else, and it doesn’t change what happened one iota. As we thought about this, so six different reasons to forgive ourselves came to mind.

1. We are not who we were yesterday
Within the space of seven years every cell in our body dies and is reformed, our thoughts are constantly changing and our feelings come and go. We are literally not the same person we were a minute ago, let alone a day, a month or a year ago. As we are no longer who we were when we did the deed, so we can bring forgiveness and hold our past self with kindness and compassion.

2. Forgiveness is not the same as forgetting
Inside us is the equivalent of an airplane’s black box: everything we have been through is logged in, whether we are aware of it or not. So forgetting something is not really an option. No matter how hard we try, it will always be lurking around the corner, waiting to drag our emotions down again. On the other hand, forgiveness accepts the presence of the dreaded deed, it looks it full in the face and says, ‘Yes, I know you. Now let’s have tea together and get to know each other a bit better.’

3. We can learn so much from our mistakes
By getting to know who we were we have the chance to learn from what we did. We can become our own greatest teacher by seeing how mistaken we can be, even when we fully believe we are right. Mistakes show us we are human. If we do not acknowledge our blunders then we are not only blind to our own failings, but we are also much more likely to repeat them.

4. I am ok but I don’t always get it right
Forgiving ourselves is not the same as forgiving what we did. A bad or rotten act is just that, and no amount of forgiveness will change it. But nor does constantly blaming ourselves. For instance, Monica made some obvious mistakes – but to continually blame herself will get her nowhere fast. What we can do is to really accept what we did while forgiving that part of us that was unaware of what we were doing or how it would impact other people; the part that just doesn’t always get it right.

5. Accepting ourselves, warts and all
When we do something wrong or hurtful we tend to beat ourselves up, to try to find redemption through shame, remorse, and even self-hatred. “I am such an idiot,” “My stupidity ruined everything,” “I am a hopeless human being.” Forgiving ourselves is the opposite. It is a radical acceptance of ourselves just as we are, mistakes and all, so that we can know ourselves more deeply and honestly. And because, in the long run, it is only through such self-acceptance that we are free to love and laugh again. Remember: Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly!
6. Letting go of the drama queen
This is one of the hardest things to do, but holding onto the story and the details of that happened is actually like a smokescreen that clouds our mind and stops us from seeing that we are more than the event, that whatever we did is not the whole of us. We can put the story down. We do not have to hold on to it, or keep repeating it in our minds. We can say: “I made a mistake, but I am not the guilt, I am not the mistake, I am not the failure, it is not the whole of me.”